Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads in life, wondering what to do next? It can be a daunting feeling, not knowing which direction to take. But fear not, because there is a way to help find direction and make a decision.
One tool that can be helpful in this process is called the personal roadmap. This model helps you to consider the various factors that may influence your decision. To create your own personal roadmap, consider the following questions:
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Where do you come from? What events, people, and challenges have shaped you into the person you are today? Think about your education, your home, and your roots. Write down any keywords that seem important to you.
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What is truly important to you? Write down the three things that come to mind first. They don't have to be specific or detailed. What are your values? What do you believe in? What principles are non-negotiable for you? If everything else falls apart, what remains?
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Who are the people who are important to you? Think about those whose opinions matter to you, who may influence your decision, and those who may be affected by your decision. Consider both the people you like and the people you fear.
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What is pushing you? What are the issues in your life that keep you from thinking about the really important things? What deadlines do you have in mind, and what is pushing you to do them? What must you do and when?
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What are you afraid of? What are the things, circumstances, or people that worry you and drain your energy?
Now, take a look at your notes. What is missing? What themes have emerged? Do the keywords tell the story of how you became who you are? Add any additional keywords or questions if necessary. Now, consider the paths that lie before you. As an example, we have listed six possibilities:
- The path I have already taken
- The path that tempts me (what have you always wanted to try?)
- The path I imagine in my wildest dreams (even if it's not achievable, what do you dream of?)
- The path that seems the most reasonable (the path that people whose opinions matter to you would recommend)
- The unknown path (the path you have never thought of before)
- The path back
Now it's time to make a decision. When was the last time you did something for the first time? Making a choice, no matter how big or small, can be scary. But remember, every decision is an opportunity to learn and grow. Trust yourself, and go forth with confidence.
